Moving on is one of the hardest decisions that anyone can ever be faced with. This may be moving on from a loss, a job, a breakup, or any other traumatic situation that needs moving on from. The inevitable feelings of hurt, betrayal, guilt, self-blame, and loss are difficult to deal with. Due to this, you would rather just dwell on the past than let go. This, however, does not benefit you or anyone around you, and it may leave you feeling worse than before. Instead, let go, move on, and allow your life to make the necessary adjustments for you to evolve. How can you do that? Well, to help you in your journey of moving on, here are things you need to let go of.
Guilt
Self-blame is a normal response when it comes to life. Anytime anything goes wrong, we look at ourselves first and blame ourselves, even when there isn’t any need to. This may be guilt from the loss of a loved one, guilt from a relationship, or general guilt that attaches you to whatever you want to move on from. If you find yourself drowning in guilt, maybe it is time for you to stop. Life happens, things change, people go, and life still has to move on regardless. Letting go and moving on does not mean forgetting, so don’t feel guilty. Forgive yourself for all the bad things you blame yourself for. After all, you are only human, aren’t you? To move on, you need to let go of the guilt you feel.
Physical Reminders of Pain
Do you know that dented metal spoon that was used to hurt you? The degrading letters sent to you? The items they bought for you every time they hurt you? Whatever it may be, let it go. Do not keep physical reminders of your pain, as it serves no positive purpose in your life. These will only remind you of the trauma you went through. Lock it up in storage or donate it. Do not hold on to the things that remind you of the trauma you went through. To move on, you shouldn’t dwell. Allow yourself to let go of all physical reminders of your pain and move on.
Expectations
You are only human, which means you have many limitations. Why do you want to burden yourself with unrealistic expectations? As much as you wish you could change certain situations and things, you can’t. You cannot single-handedly expect yourself to carry the weight of all the problems and trauma. Remind yourself to be realistic and have normal expectations when it comes to life. Those “what if” and “if only” scenarios in your head are not realistic. Face reality and allow yourself to let go of unrealistic expectations so that you give yourself the chance to move on.
Too much control
You have to have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change. As much as we all want to control our lives, we cannot control what happens and what happens in situations. Let go of the need to control everything because it will only leave you helpless. Remind yourself that you do not control everything around you. All you can do is control yourself, your actions, reactions, and narrative. By wanting excessive control, you will dwell on that thing, person, and situation that does not guarantee or deserve you. Let go of your impulse to control everything if you want to move on.
Fear of Change
The human mind is comfortable with the familiar. We find comfort in routine and the unexpected because change triggers us and makes us scared. To what end will you fear change, though? Isn’t change an unavoidable part of life? Will you allow yourself to deteriorate, hurt, and suffer because of your fear of change? Embrace the change that you went through, and allow yourself to change in order to work on and bridge those changes. Do not let fear stop you from moving on. At some point, who you are now was someone you were afraid of being. All the chances you took on yourself and what you went through have managed to build you up. Let go of fear and allow yourself to move on.
Negativity
Right now, you are probably thinking about all the bad things that could happen if you move on. Most of those things are probably more far-fetched than the reality of your life. Negativity is the key to stagnancy, and stagnancy, in the wrong form, will only make you worse. Be optimistic if you want to experience positivity. The energy you emanate is the energy that will define you at the end of it all. Like they say, at the end of the tunnel, there is light! Be positive and let go of the negativity to move on.
Toxicity
Toxicity is not conducive to moving on. Why are you keeping around people who will make you feel worse about yourself? Why are you still in that environment that drains you? Toxic feelings, people, and interactions have no place in the life you want to create through moving on. You need to let go of the toxicity and put an end to how it interacts with your life. You need all the positive energy you can get to move on. Do not allow any toxicity in your life. Let go of toxicity to move on.
Comparing yourself to others
What makes you unique and beautiful is your being. The way you are, the way you are built, and where you are matter. The only thing that should motivate you to do better is you. Stop comparing yourself and your life to what you see on social media and TV. Your path is different. Let go of the impulse to compare yourself and accept who you are to move on.
Making Excuses
There will always be reasons for you not to move on. Obstacles are inevitable. However, it is up to you to look at the reasons why you should move on and see it through. If you want to move on, stop making excuses. Let go of the thousand excuses you have and make room to move on.