The notion that love is blind, is not only concerning looks but to character, behavior, and actions. It is very difficult for a person in love to notice when things are being taken too far and lines are being crossed. More often than not, we can’t even tell green and red apart anymore when we are in love. Here is your eye-opener so that you stop making excuses and see everything as clearly as ever. Here are 9 red flags that you should run away from a relationship for.
Toxicity
This is not something to ignore in a relationship. This is because your relationship should be your safe space that allows you to express yourself, be yourself, and glow. A relationship meant for you will be filled with more joy, laughter, peace, and calmness. When you, however, start feeling drained and the opposite of all this, it is your cue to leave that relationship ASAP. Do not allow any person to corrode the inner child in you by intoxicating it. Prioritize your mental health and run away.
Possessiveness
Of course, you will be slightly possessive about your partner when you are in love. This just shows that you don’t want to share them as you want to enjoy them more. When it starts becoming suffocating, this isn’t normal anymore. Once your partner constantly makes you cut off other people and things that are important to you and entirely harmless, it is a deep red flag waving right in your face. This compulsive need to control will not get easier with time, it will only get worse. Run away from that relationship if you prioritize yourself.
Criticism
While criticism can be valuable if and when done constructively, it can hurt you when done constantly and destructively. Negativity has a way of eating us and making us versions of ourselves that are undesirable. If you are constantly criticized, your self-confidence decreases, you lose trust in yourself, and your self-esteem is affected. No matter how much in love you may be, you come first. You need to do things that make you the best version of yourself and one of those things, in this situation, is running away from that relationship now.
Disrespectful Tendencies
What’s love really, if not respect? You cannot, should not, and must not settle for a partner that disrespects you, whether it is in front of others or behind closed doors. Someone who truly loves you should respect you and back it up with their actions. A partner who insults you is not worth your energy and it is not a normal thing to go through. Once you start noticing your partner violating your boundaries and demining you, run away from that relationship. If you thought this red flag was the worst, buckle up for the next one.
No Communication
How do you expect to have a healthy relationship if you can’t communicate well? You are supposed to be able to have two-way communication with your partner so that your connection depends and so that you can understand each other better, making you feel safe, secure, and on the same page about your relationship. Then why are you still in that relationship if you can’t get the bare minimum of things? It is important to tackle every aspect of your relationship. You shouldn’t feel the weight all alone. When it starts feeling that way, let go and move on.
Lack of Support
To be in a relationship means to support and be supported all the time. Support translates to your partner being there for you and being your cheerleader. You should feel supported in your relationship and have an anchor to depend on when it gets a little rough, just as you are an anchor yourself. If your partner is unsupportive and unmoved by what you are achieving and going through, then you may need to reconsider that relationship. You are not an island and if being in that relationship makes you feel this way, then maybe you should move away from it.
Lack of Trust
The foundation of your relationship should be built on trust because how can you otherwise feel secure and safe in that relationship? Do not be gas-lighted into thinking that you have trust issues if your partner does not give you any reason to trust them. Likewise, if your partner becomes a control freak who is constantly snooping on your phone, wardrobe, and car, it becomes very weird, and such behavior can be an indication of toxicity. If your partner allows their insecurities to eat away the foundation of trust, it is not your job to take this. Run away and don’t look back.
Controlling Behaviour
Imagine having a partner who dictates what you wear and eat, who you talk to, where you go, what job you should take, what you should eat, and how you should conduct yourself. Where is the autonomy then if you can’t even be free and live the life the way you see fit for you? If you are in such a relationship, don’t normalize this. No one will judge you for wanting your freedom. Run away from that red flag of a partner and prioritize yourself.
Inconsistency
If you have a partner who tells you something today and then changes it, or when there is a mismatch between your partner’s words and actions, this is a red flag. Words are easy to spit but actions speak louder. Do not settle someone who does not show consistency in behavior, words, and actions. If you are currently in that situation, open your eyes and run away.